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It’s not like Nadia*, 21, can discuss her romantic frustrations with her parents as Dev did.“It’s basically an unspoken rule that you don’t tell your parents you’re dating unless you’re getting married,” she says, admitting that, ironically, she’s looking for someone she can bring home to meet her family. “Being Pakistani, openly dating someone isn’t acceptable.We’re used to customizing everything from our Facebook feeds to the news we read to the possibility of “designer babies,” so it makes sense that we seek a partner who meets our romantic specifications. Religious spaces like mosques are typically gender segregated, and many Muslim millennials who grew up in North America find the idea of arranged marriage outdated.
Part of the app’s differentiation was speaking to the diversity within Muslim communities.
Salaam Swipe was also launched recently by Canadian entrepreneur Khalil Jessa and allows users to filter matches based on their political beliefs.
But having an abundance of online dating options doesn’t necessarily make the process of finding someone you can spend your life with easier.
“We are conducting the entire process of finding someone with a tick-box mentality. “We have become overly specific on ensuring an individual has X, Y or Z or earns a certain amount, as opposed to seeing how suitable the person is with respect to personality and life goals and ambitions.” According to Psychology Today, people have the tendency to fill in the information gaps with flattering details when looking for mates online, while making themselves appear as desirable as possible, even if that means exaggerating their positive traits.
Adeela*, 22, has tried Minder and Tinder in her quest for “an open-minded brown guy who adheres to the same moral standards,” which, to her, means a guy who does not drink or do drugs, and of whom her parents would approve.