Polite brush off dating
The only thing I can imagine is that he sensed some reticence on my part and instead of allowing me to say no to a second date, decided to not even bother asking. I don't care how big you think it is or how much you're convinced I want to see it. This experience got me thinking about the intricacies of "the blow off". Or what about those instances before you've even made it to a first date where things fizzle via text prematurely. On top of being noncommittal to a place, it's also not cool when a guy keeps plans intentionally vague as in "let's get together this weekend" (Saturday or Sunday? No one says you have to have your life figured out by now. To help answer these questions, I emailed a number of my fabulous, single girlfriends polling them about situations that would lead them to lose interest and cut off contact with a date (or prospective date). You're Wishy Washy About Making Plans -- Nothing is more unattractive than a man who won't even bother to make a plan for a first date. But if you're verging on 40 and still live like a frat boy in college, we're not going to take you seriously. At the top of a list of reasons why people blow dates off, is a simple lack of interest, physical or otherwise. If a guy were to say "I love dive bars, let's go to this great one I know of", I'd totally be game. Being Inappropriately Intimate -- If I haven't even kissed you yet, I don't want your hand on my leg, my ass, my arm, my hair or my face. But let this stuff play out rather than expecting that excessive physical contact upfront is cool. But what about those dates where it seems like everything is perfectly aligned for another date and you never hear from them again? At least it shows you put a second's worth of thought into getting together. Otherwise, you can't expect us to keep our schedules open for someone who may not come through anyway! You're an Adult Baby -- Myself (and most of my friends) are in their late twenties.
In spite of my ambivalence towards him, our interaction made me wonder what had happened between his initial seemingly abundant interest, and his subsequent decision to change his mind and blow me off. But that doesn't mean you have to talk about it incessantly throughout our first date. Dick Pics Before We've Met -- If we're not sleeping together, I don't want to see your junk.
Regardless, the lack of common courtesy literally boggles my mind!
And let’s not forget the crackberry addicts constantly looking down and fiddling on their cell phones texting aggressively behind the menu. Then again, maybe it’s just a sign that they’re just not that into you. There are basic rules of etiquette and the sad truth is that many people still do not follow them. I get slightly peeved when people don’t follow simple basic etiquette.
There’s always that oafish bore who insists on yammering throughout the entire movie. Then there’s the impolite individual that never responds to evites, invitations, or Facebook events (fine, that one’s a stretch).
I mean the straight up screaming into the phone like it’s paper cups attached by string or something. Sure, it’s possible the invite sunk to the bottom of an overcrowded in-box.